Why are people afraid to ASK?

I borrowed a book from my workmate going by the tittle “How to Get from Where you Are to Where You Want to Be” The 25 Principles of Success by Jack Canfield.
This book has been very inspiring to me since it has so much reality in it and can help one transform for the best.

When I got to rule 15, I thought it would be wise of me to try share it with you since it may be happening to you or has happened to you or someone you might know. It is about asking, and the question is “why are people afraid to ask”……..and the answer is may be they are afraid of looking needy, looking foolish or looking stupid but mostly people are afraid of experiencing rejection which comes with the word ‘NO’.

What I realized is that when you fear to ask, you thinking the answer will be No, you are the one rejecting yourself before others do, or when you want to give an opinion and you think it will be rejected, you are the one rejecting it before others do.

This happens to us at work, home, in relationships, at school and even with our friends. I remember in class, I feared answering questions thinking my answer is wrong only for someone else to answer exactly they way I wanted to answer it and our teacher would say it is correct then all of us who did not answer would get some punishment for not participating in class.

Don’t always assume that you will get a No. Take the risk to ask for whatever you want and need. If they say No, you are no worse than when you started and if they say Yes, you are a lot better off.

It costs nothing to Ask, and you will loose nothing by asking whether the answer is a No or a Yes, learn to ask because if you keep quite you might loose the best life has for you like a promotion at work, salary raise, a time off, a date or even a friend.